The Wedding Night – No Ration on Passion

Weddings as we know is where a bride and groom stands at the altar taking their vows pledging undying love for each other but not all countries do the same as we. Worldwide country cultures and beliefs differ greatly in the way they celebrate their wedding night.

Did you know that after a marriage has taken place some couples wedding night never goes according to plan due to all the activities concocted up by friends and family in a quest to upset the newlyweds plans of becoming one in the marital suite as early as they would like.

In the US it is habitual after the reception for the couple to jump into the vehicle that waits to take them on honeymoon only to find that the rear end of the car is fully geared up with rattling tin cans.

Tradition for the Gaelic culture is where close friends and family set out to delay the couple consummating their marriage in a fun sort of way. In the good old days the married couple would spend their wedding night in a hay barn. Close lady friends of the bride would dress her for bed and would invite every male species who attended the wedding to kiss her goodnight. What they did in the old days to add fun to the night would be things of disturbance making it hard for the groom to meet up with his new wife. When the couple finally come together noises would bellow from outside the barn with its (peephole) thus adding further embarrassment to the newlyweds.

It is just a matter of time when the alcohol kicks in sending the pranksters to sleep. Is it any wonder why in those days the honeymoon destination was kept a secret.

Other Celtic Scottish rituals performed on the wedding night was the sprinkling of water onto the bed which was considered to bring good luck.

Inhabitants of Germany and France uphold similar traditions where their disturbances on the wedding night are called Chiverie. The US spell it Shivaree, they also cause havoc by decorating the bridal suite with balloons or laying food all over the bed just for fun. A love in surrounded by crumbs is not very romantic.

They say when in Rome do as the Romans do but whatever you do dont fall as it is seen as bad luck if the bride takes a tumble on entering the newly weds first home. After the roman wedding all male friends of the married couple would carry the bride over the threshold. But times have changed where the groom has the pleasure, in saying that; he may need to ask for assistance if his bride is the size of Bessie Bunter.

In western Africa, (Benin), virginity is valued highly. The brides mother compensates her with money if still untouched by man on her wedding night! This may sound alarming but the sheets are checked for blood smears the next morning after the wedding night. I did say things were done differently in other countries and this just happens to be the custom in Benin. Sometimes the sheets were flown like flags from the window to show that the daughter never gave into temptation submitting her body to any other.

A Chinese wedding night consists of beautifully designed candles shaped like a phoenix and dragon to force away evil spirits. Wine is drunk from goblets tied together with a scarlet red sash while at the same time the newlyweds have their arms intertwined. It is now when the bride is handed half-raw dumplings which denotes prosperity.

Wait for it no ration on passion for brides from Marquesasian (Polynesia) who are expected to have sex with all the male guests – Heaven for bid if the numbers are great – the groom finally gets to sleep with his bride last.
Depending on the number of male guests surely this could go on for quite some time but at the end of the day I suppose the wait will be worthwhile because it is the groom who gets to sleep with her for the rest of his life.

Wedding Sex – Virgin Or Not, It’s a Sacred Event

Question from Bride: “My husband is a virgin but I am not. I feel guilty that he saved himself for marriage. How can I make our wedding sex special when I’ve already had sex before with other men?”
Wedding sex is on a whole new level. Traditionally, people were supposed to wait until marriage, but it’s more of a rarity among couples today.

If you’re a religious couple, chances are higher that you’ve saved yourself for an amazing night of wedding sex.

But it’s more than just sex, regardless of whether or not you’ve been romantically entangled with someone previously. Wedding sex is the first moment the two of you will give yourselves to one another as husband and wife.

Even if you’ve already had intercourse with one another, wedding sex will be memorable and romantic and special because you’ve just joined your hearts in a celebration of commitment forever.
If you’re a virgin bride, you may have a lot of anxiety about wedding sex. That’s normal and your groom will probably understand if you’re open about your fears. The key is to make it an intimate moment. Read some guides that deal with intimacy, not just the act of sex itself.

Make sure you take your time and don’t rush your intimate moments that night. Wear something special for your wedding sex – lingerie fit for a beautiful bride. Linger in your first moments as husband and wife. And most of all – enjoy yourself!

Some couples even find wedding sex is out of the question after several days filled with high-stress, long hours and partying. That’s okay, too. No one said you MUST have sex on your wedding night. You want it to be special, so save it for when you’re full of energy if you want to!

You may even want to have a ceremony before the intimacy takes place (especially if you’re worried about not being a virgin bride). You can write vows only your husband will hear about devoting your body to him and he to you – anything romantic will do the job.

To Have But Not to Hold? Waiting Until the Wedding Night

Once upon a time there was the idea that nice young ladies waited until their wedding nights to be intimate with their husbands. Never mind that plenty of those brides were already “in a family way” by the time they got to the altar, that was what everyone subscribed to publicly. Times have certainly changed, but in recent years there has been a backlash against society’s more casual attitude towards sex, and that has included a renewed interest in making the wedding night special by waiting for it – even among couples who have been living together for years. Read more about the trend of a maintaining a period of abstinence before the wedding night as well as the trend about couples saving everything for their first night as husband and wife.

A few years ago, I read about the “revirginization” trend in the Sunday New York Times. The general concept is that a few weeks or even a few months before their wedding, engaged couples stop having intimate relations so that their wedding night will be like the first time. It’s a bit like closing the barn door after the horse is out, but nonetheless the trend has caught on among some groups. It allows couples, even those who already share a home, to feel more traditional for their weddings.

Weddings, after all, are a time when even the most modern woman tends to feel more sentimental. This is why even as trends come and go in the fashion world, classics like lace and pearl bridal jewelry remain in style for brides year after year. Some brides will even wear the same wedding gown or pearl bridal jewelry as their mothers did, so perhaps it should not be so surprising that they are hoping to make their wedding nights as special as they imagine they were for brides a generation or two ago.

In addition to couples who decide to abstain from intimacy in the weeks leading up to their wedding, there are now couples who genuinely save themselves for marriage, in every possible way. Certainly this is nothing new, but it has been brought into the public eye by shows like “19 Kids and Counting”, which chronicles the lives of the very large and very religious Duggar family, proponents of the ultra-conservative Quiverfull movement. When their eldest son Josh was married last year, one of the central features of the wedding was that he and his bride-to-be Anna saved their first kiss for the end of their wedding ceremony. While not too many passionate young couples are likely to limit their affection to chaste hugs for their entire courtship, anytime an idea is featured on a television show, it gains some currency in the culture at large. The “Virgin Lips” movement, as it is sometimes called, has more adherents than one might think.

In the end, the decision to wait a little, wait a lot, or become a temporary born-again virgin for two weeks to make the honeymoon more thrilling are highly personal decisions which every couple must make for themselves. Brides and grooms-to-be should do their best to follow their hearts rather than trends, whether permissive or restrictive. When a couple can decide together on the best path for their intimate relationship, it will surely help them to start out their marriage on the right foot, whatever they decide.